How much...how much can a man take?

[bigfish4me]

This is a rant....i chose this forum because ...well because this is where i feel at home and Marty i thank you for it, in the past few weeks i have had my plate filled untill it overfolws, and its spilling out here. My 13 year old daughter...busted big time, little did i realize how decietful she could be.....tried to lure her only true friend down to a park only to have a few other girls whoop on her, luckily the girl didnt fall for it...the meistro of the deciet was smart enough to not use her cell phone to send the text messages that in turn went to the police. Just 3 weeks ago i gave this girl the guilt by association speach and told her that the kids she was running around with were well known with the local police...conshohocken is a small town, i said look i am not going to tell you not to have friends but if they start doing something you know you will get into trouble for WALK AWAY....seems my message didnt get through. Well the police are involved and my oldest is in deep, the night the police knocked on my door which was last tuesday...the mesitro sent her a text sayin "oh shit carlys mom called the cops"...so i made her send a text back sayin i know my dad is taking me to the police ststion because of what you sent on my phone.....guess what that was the last text from the meistro....so i looked at the sent and recieved text messages on her cell phone since she lost cell phone, tv, and computer privledges and to say i was shocked is an understatement.......i am ashamed to say that i had to stuff a bar of soap in my daughters mouth.....words cant describe the dissapointment in this kid, does great in school and i keep her on a tight leash...man she knocked me for a loop at how heartless she can really be.....aside from the language. She gets home from school on monday and tells me a bold faced lie...no remorse, busted i borrowed my fathers car and watched her at the bbus stop as she shot the shit with the kid she isnt allowed to hang with for 15 minutes at the bus stop...un benownst to her, never saw it coming...what the hell i cant trust her after she got caught in a few lies...and walked through the door and lied straight to my face. I dont know what to do with her. On top of that, my grand father...the man that has made and given me the oppertunity to be the fisherman that i am...83 years old god bless him is going through a rough time...had to be committed to a scych ward because he is either over medicated or just tired of going on...wants to kill himself....this just guts me, man i love my pop and to see the shell of the man i lived and love just...in no other word guts me. Lets throw my dumb ass mother in law into the mix....given her the benefit of the doubt many a time....used my parents as a reference on a loan she took out...unbenownst to them......one that is in collection, now things between my parents and her mother have been strenuious ....basically because she is a fuck up, my wifes birthday is thursday and this woman is caught in a bold faced lie and thinks her best defence is a strong offence...so i got into it with her and now the wife is upset.
On top of all this......the dumb ass electrician at work today hung 3" conduit over top of a new piece of machinery...dead in the way of an over head tram crane....operator moves the tram....conduit falls and totals the controll unit....i am talking a 24" touch screen plc and a drive cabinet that is 10 ' wide and so full of stuff i cant even explain it....bottom line the touch screen alone is $15,000, every shift this machine does not run is around $40,000 worth of material and it will be 3 weeks to import the parts since the machine was manufactured in greece...2 shifts a day x 6 days a week...you do the math...i need to find a way to make this go away sooner than 3 weeks.
My uncle...the man that has givin me every oppertunity to fish offshore, my aunt is loosing a battle with cancer....56 years old, fell down the steps last week and broke her ankle, foot and nose...he is watching her die right infront of his eyes, i love her.. i love him...how much can a man take???? They say what dont kill you makes you stronger....by the time i get through this i should be able to bench press a buick...sorry for the rant, i had to get it out.


Just a note its not the Bammer.....she is 10, my oldest courtney is going to be a handfull if you havent already seen because she is a follower....The bammer no doubt marches to the beat of her own drum....seen this from the time they were much , much younger....Its definitly not easy being the father of 2 girls......Good lord give me strength.

[gottaflylee]

Man, all this sucks and I hate that you are having to go through this. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers...

[Proheat]

Wow........you have your hands full!!! I wish you the best and the strength to get through this. My opinion is just one day at a time and do the best that you can do. We are all human and have limits and capabilities. I had my hands full with running a business and putting family life on the back burner and when I finally came to my breaking point and made a few decisions, a bunch of doors/opportunities opened up and things started falling into place. I am a believer in that things happen for a reason and will work out.

Best of luck!!!

[Vector]

Don't give up! Hang in there, teenage girls are a handfull.

[juicyhook]

Hang in there brother, it can only get better from here.

The daughter thing is tough, these kids think lies are hurting anyone, if only she knew how much it is hurting you.

[clt_capt]

Hang tough. It will get better and you have a bunch of friends here to lean on.

[Avenger]

Geez, it always happens all at once doesn't it? The only thing I can offer is that this too shall pass. I know that's not a lot of help, but it's what I got.

Have you tried ebay for the control unit? Log on and look at completed listings too. Sometimes something doesn't meet reserve or the deal falls through and it's still available. You never know.

Oh yeah, and next time Buy American.

[bobdu11]

You've got alot of shit going on, that's for sure....some things you can control, some things you can't...

You daughter, that you can control...I'll bet there's over 1000 dads on here that have been through something similar to what you're going through with their teenage children...it aint' easy, but you will get through it....good parenting always wins in the end...I'm sure we can all tell you it'll get better and have stories of what our kids have done...let's put it this way...been through the shit with my two kids, now my oldest son is graduating College this year and my daughter is in her third year of college getting her teaching degree...it does work out if you put the effort forth to teach you kids the right way...you just gotta love em...things will happen...

The rest you really can't control but only offer whatever support and love you have in you...as someone said earlier, this too will pass...

not much more to say this what's been said..hang in there, it will work out in the end.....good luck....Bob

[marlineer]

The good Lord WILL give You the strength. I have raised 3 Kids the oldest is 27 and the youngest is 19. There have been struggles but in the end, it all shakes out. I think ALL Men are challenged at a certain point in life by the passing of Our loved ones and the rigors of the day to day shit. You will get through this and many life lessons will be learned by all involved. God Bless My man, soon time to fish, and You must!

[La Gringa]

Bigfish.... teenage girls that run in a pack are not nice people... they are mean, spiteful, judgemental and so forth... but this is not abnormal... and to make matters worse, it's a lot easier to run with the pack than to stand up to it...