How much...how much can a man take?

**bigfish4me** · 04-15-2009 11:29 AM

Thank you all for the kind words i appreciate it immensely, i guess i just have to keep on keeping on.

**BuffaloHunter** · 04-15-2009 12:19 PM

Good Luck Big, All you can do is the best you can. Keep your head up.

Brian

**JD5652** · 04-15-2009 12:30 PM

Bigfish-

I had a stretch of 4-5 years that sounds a lot like you're going through right now. The world seemed to all tumble down on me at once.....loss of a brother and sister in the battle of how to care for ailing parents.....death of both my parents within 6 months of each other...... 2.5 year divorce battle from hell.........betrayal of a 10-year business partner/best friend....and a few other things.....

Like many here have said...try to keep your wits about you and try to put it all in perspective. Try to make the best decisions you can for yourself and family.

What helped me cope was to make sure I did the "right thing" above everything else ....and this included going against what I "wanted" to do many times.

Hang in there....it will make you not only stronger, but also wiser and probably change your perspective on life.....

**Robja** · 04-15-2009 03:03 PM

I will keep you in my prayers Bigfish. You are going through a tough time. Been through similar times with one of mine. Things have gotten better but he still doesn't have my trust. I have to constantly check up on him. Things with your daughter will get better but it takes time and some growing up.

**Deep C** · 04-15-2009 03:38 PM

Wow... I'm lucky Mini didn't head that direction. Yeah I dealt with the rebellion and defiance and smart mouth bitchyness that goes with teen girls but nothing that would land her in hot water with the cops...
Kids don't come with an instruction manual... Its easy to blame ones self as a bad parent but don't let yourself go there. This formative age full of hormones is a screwed up time. Chemical imbalance prevents clear thought and all you can do is tough through. Its almost impossible to curb your own anger but if you can please try to do so. When mini was particularyly off the wall I regret some of the stuff I said to her. Shit no parent should say no matter what. I told her that her behavior was so bad that it could cause a divorce but instead of fighting for custody her mother and I would be fighting to see who gets stuck with her.
Down here there was a program where they took trouble kids to a morgue and let them see first hand drunken car wreck and overdose victims and even kids their age dying from "experimenting" with homemade ways to get high. It was effective as hell but damn liberals cut it short as it was upsetting the kids... Screw that. That was the whole point to rattle their little cages so hard that it left a permanent mark.
I'm seeing parents with trouble kids taking it upon themselves to take the kids directly...
As for screwed up relatives with money woes I've disowned a couple... Blood isn't thicker than my ability to judge a person for their character even if they are a sister, cousin or inlaw...
I pray it gets better for you bro...