Requires that you let them make mistakes on their own and learn to deal with it. Deepy, your worse than Lagringa when she put up a thread about her son being dumped at 18. How would he ever live? If you want your kids to grow up, let them fail once in a while.
Now if you will excuse me, I have an appointment with an attorney this morning to up-date my will. After 15 years in court with my ex, I want to make sure my kids get Nothing. Im cutting them out and I want to make sure its lawyer proof. They got all they are getting from me when she got her settlement. That should teach them there are consquences for everything in life, even if its not your fault.
From: Seattlepi.com
No escape from 'helicopter parents'
Constant hovering can kick up a cloud of troubles
By FELIX CARROLL
ALBANY TIMES UNION
Excuse me, but you're hovering. You realize that, right?
The media, pediatricians, psychologists and even the college dean, they've all got you figured out -- or so they say. They're calling you a helicopter parent. Get it? Because you hover?
You're a baby boomer, right? OK, then. Listen up, because this is what they're saying about you:
Guillermo Munro/P-I
You're too obsessed with your children. You treat them like little princes and princesses -- like they're No. 1, like they're MVPs. You've painstakingly planned their lives from their first play date to their first day of college.
They're your little Renaissance kids. You shuttle them from soccer practice, to clarinet lessons, to karate, and -- because they will be going to a great college -- to SAT prep class. Whoops! Speaking of which: You're late.
You inflate their egos. You give them graduation ceremonies even when it's just from preschool. You give them a trophy at the end of the season even when they lose. And by the time they get to college and are asked who their hero is, your child will say those words you long to hear: My dad. My mom.
Yes, helicopter parent, your intentions are good, but that rotor of yours is causing a din. Bring her down to terra firma. Let's talk.
A report on "60 Minutes" last fall discussed how the so-called echo boomers -- the children of baby boomers, who were born between 1982 and 1995 -- are "over-managed" and "very pressured" and treated by their parents as pieces of "Baccarat crystal or something that could somehow shatter at any point."
Indeed, Mel Levine, a professor of pediatrics at the University of North Carolina Medical School in Chapel Hill, says today's children "may well shatter."
He thinks children are being coddled and protected to a degree that threatens their ability later in life to strike off on their own and form healthy relationships and proper job skills.
"These parents are trying to create a really terrific statue of a child rather than a child," says Levine, author of "Ready or Not, Here Comes Life" (Simon and Schuster, 2005).
Beverly Low, dean of the first-year class at Colgate University, says that where before parents would drop their kids off to college and get out of the way, parents now constantly call her office intervening in a roommate dispute or questioning a professor's grading system.
"A lot of our students tell us, 'Hey, my mom is my best friend. My father is my best friend.' Is that a good thing? It's a different thing," she says.
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