How do you get over it?

[hubris 1]

Im still not over it.........

[Reel Fanatic]

I know this thread is an antique but I'll never forget when I had some hot as hell babe break my heart somewhere in the vicinity of 21. Screwed my head up big time. I wish I could have been on the other side of the country so I never had to see her when she was out with other guys. The one thing that got me back in the saddle again was all the sympathy sex from concerned "friends with benefits". Good times I tell you...good times.

[Anthony of the ARK]

Best way to get over anything is go somewhere with Bill Pino. Works every time.

[hubris 1]

Best way to get over anything is go somewhere with Bill Pino. Works every time.

I gave him hell last year about that. Seems like every time you turn around hes going away. They know him by name at the airport.

[longfisher]

Biochemically speaking, love is to the brain's pleasure center much like powerful uppers. Indeed, it's the endorphins made by the body in response to pleasurable events and settings that make you feel that emotion.

As you probably know, most relationships which develope into strong affection to love start out slow. The endorphins are there in reasonably high levels right from the start but the brain is not very sensitized to them yet. As time goes on, the brain adapts to these high levels of endorphins and puppy love becomes affection becomes strong affections become love becomes dependency. It's almost exactly the same mechanism that drug addicts report.

Getting dumped is also much the same mechanism as drug addicts during withdrawal. You just feel awful, the endorphins to which you've become addicted fall off to low levels and cause the brain to yearn for them, just as drug addicts yearn for their substance of choice.

So, the "cure" is much the same. Most addicts can kick the habit in about 100 days and begin feeling much less dependent. The brain is reacting and adapting to the absence of the drug. The brain does the same with endorphins. About 100 days and the brain has adapted pretty well to the lower levels of endorphins.

So, cold turkey for 100 days and he'll be well on his way to recovery.

Of course, there's recidivism in both drug addicts and lovers. That's also the same mechanism. It prevents addicts from ever being totally free of their dependency (once a drunk always a drunk) and it allows humans to find love again.

By the way, saddness at a loss of a loved one works the same way. It takes about 100 days for the high to wear off if you're really close to someone. Then life proceeds as usual.

LongFisher

[Jesse Lockowitz]

I'll tell you what my dad told me.

Sack up, be a man, and handle your business.