How do you get over it?

[La Gringa]

i am defin thankful for my second chance......i dont know where i would be if it would have lasted longer than it did.....

I defin wouldnt be a sucessful as i am right now, that is for sure.

Me too, Jersey..!!

[hubris 1]

me too jersey,

[whowantstoknow]

you got to look at it this way...we have people in and out in our lives for whatever reason...we obviously will get upset when its over but its up to us to looks how much weve learned, or gained from being with that person........

its just an easier way to handle something. when you look at the good that has come out of it, instead of the bad. You live longer with a positive outlook.

[gman]

you got to look at it this way...we have people in and out in our lives for whatever reason...we obviously will get upset when its over but its up to us to looks how much weve learned, or gained from being with that person........

its just an easier way to handle something. when you look at the good that has come out of it, instead of the bad. You live longer with a positive outlook.

Thats actually the best and easiest way to look at things

La Gringa ... I applaud you as a mom doing this it is a testament of your love for your son. He is very lucky. To be honest I wish there was a single answer. I just went through a divorce and its sucks but in the end you move on at your own pace and he will wake up one day meet someone and forget about what he just went through. Keep is posted and best wishes

Glenn

[Deep C]

Read this topic and indeed I sympathise with the young fellow. I'll fall out of character for a moment if I may...

My heart was diced up and the bits scattered for the vultures over the same kind of thing. Sweet Jesus it hurt and there was no fix. Over the top kind of hurt. School suffered, all those around me suffered, I had no drive, no life left. Time softened the blow some... I over compensated and tried to find love every place I could. Basically though it was a miserable series of one nighters or girls that looked like Bo Derek with IQ of a tree stump. Body by Rolls Royce and brains by Matell...
I can offer one piece of advice as far as dealing with her. Don't get sucked back in. If she is inconsiderate enough to let you hurt the way she did, it just isn't gonna work down the road. With my gal we tried and tried, nearly ten years on and off. Hell I was dating her when I met my wife.
Funny how that worked. I was not looking, not in the market at all. One thing led to another trhough twenty two years later we're stronger than ever.
I could have avoided years of misery if I had listened to others. It WILL get better. You WILL find somebody even better. Don't go look for it, when its right it will find you...
La Gringa, If you can get that across to him that will work miracles... Did he ever lose a pet that was close only to find the next one was better? Remind him of that kind of stuff.
These lessons come through our whole life. My old cat was great, Laid him down when he was 17. Thought no other copuld equal him. The one I have now is the very best I've had.
Lost the girl of my dreams and now married to the consumate keeper. Lost a bunch of sweet jobs only to find the next was better than the one before and now I have my dream job. It all comes with time and patience...
So there you have it. the deep side of Deep...

[Dave Sikorski]

I'm a damn good wingman and will be in Denver on 9/18. It happens to be the same day my alma matter WVU plays Colorado. I couldn't find anyone to go to the game with me. Tell him I'll buy him a ticket if I can get a couch to crash on. I technically am supposed to fly home that night, but I think it'll be easy to get a new flight the next day.

I'll get him back on his feet, of course the Mountaineers will smear the buffs all over the field, but that's expected.

Oh yeah, to keep this on track...Everyone has been on track. You are in one of the best college towns in the country in one of our most beautiful states. There's no better place to meet a good woman.

This old chick is not worth your time. This time it's her fault, if you go back to her the next time it'll be your fault.


-D

[joeksr]

If it's your first love, you may never get "over it".
In time the pain will go away.
In time you'll move on.
In time you'll find someone else.
In time you'll realize that you can't look for real love,
It has to find you.
In time you'll think back on what might have been.
In time you'll realize that what might have been couldn't be.
Then.
You can live again.

All things take Time.

Joe.

[La Gringa]

Thanks you guys! You've been a tremendous help both for me and for him. Sharing your advice with him has gotten him out of the rut and back on the road. I think he feel less like a new kid in a town where he knows no one and more like part of the brotherhood!

Oh, he's still got some road to hoe, but at least now he's hoein'

[Reelscreamer]

La Gringa,

I am sorry to hear your son is having a rough time in college. I hope the best for him and one of my best friends had this happen to him and I don't want to sound rude or anything but what he said is "The only way to get over a woman is to get under another" and it seemed to work for him! I know this isn't something a mother can't tell her son but hey I guess mark another one up to guy "Locker room talk" LOL

Jeremy

[La Gringa]

La Gringa,

I am sorry to hear your son is having a rough time in college. I hope the best for him and one of my best friends had this happen to him and I don't want to sound rude or anything but what he said is "The only way to get over a woman is to get under another" and it seemed to work for him! I know this isn't something a mother can't tell her son but hey I guess mark another one up to guy "Locker room talk" LOL

Jeremy

Well, that's the beauty of this - I can pass these along to him without actually being the one who said it!!!

Hey! Gringo and I were just talking about what a wonderful response we've gotten from you guys and what great advice I've been able to pass on to Gringo Jr. And of course, don't forget Dr. Box who took the time to make that awesome video!!! I expected some guy advice and that was it - I never dreamed we'd get this outpouring.

Gringo pointed out that if I'd done this on any number of other forums that we've been members of in the past, I would have gotten blasted by everyone and laughed outta the place.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. You are guys are TRULY a CLASS ACT!!